Would you allow your child to go out on a date at an early age (as early as 16)? What do you think you’d feel about it if one day your child would ask you “Ma, can I got out on Friday night with…..? Be honest ladies!

My Answer:

At that age and she’s probably 4th year in highschool, well, why not?  As long as it’s a group date and she should take care and pray hard for Lord’s guidance so that she can be able to shun temptation.  I even think that 16 is quite late.  I am beginning to think of what if she will asked me earlier than that.

Thinking back of my early teen-age years, i was already the responsible one but I can remember it was my dad who told me that i should not entertain any guys or suitors or else he would drag me by my hair and go around the school compound.  At 14 huh! that was scary.  So in my mind, i should not or else.   But right then that school year surely around september, i had a bf.  It’s through that relationship i learned how to write, to make love notes, love greetings, and even the importance of telling that person that you gonna do this and that.  It was all from there.  I really call it “first love” although i knew the world is still too wide to entertain marriage.  It was a relationship against the guy’s parents because we were still young — but we prevailed until the summer.  When my dad found out about it, he was angry but i told him to talk with mom and all was settled.  I was not dragged on the road.  But ican remember when my schoolmates goes with me to my home, my dad will be very mad.  I really dunno why.  Well, I have told my mother from the very beginning and i even showed her the love letters.  Since that first relationship, whoever comes to my life, i told my mom and some of them needs to write my parents beforehand. 

I can say i was a responsible girl when it comes to relationship.  I had enjoyed my dating years although it’s not the typical dating environment and dating activities because it’s not allowed by the school.  You can’t go public like holding hands or guy’s arms over the shoulder of a lady.  Even a bf/gf pair in one umbrella is not allowed!  hahaha but when night comes it’s ok coz no one can see.  If that be done and catched by guards in public, watch out or else before the school ends, you will be sent home.

As mitch have said above, it is nice to let our daughters experienced those “nice” experienced we had when we were young.  That’s just it.  But for me personally, even though i said YES — it does not mean that Dimple can be real serious about going to be in a relationship at that age.  Infact, i told her to really be chosy with the guy she wants to go out with or else she will end up like me.  I always put in my mind that parents are just there to give guidance and support not decide for the children. Because no matter how much preventing and protecting you gonna do,  the ending choice, it’s still with them.