Joys in Life

NOVEMBER 7 -Do you celebrate anniversaries? How?  In all my relationships (i think except the man i married) anniversaries are special dates.  If time does can’t let us have a celebration, special greetings will do like anniv cards and maybe a candy or two will go along with it.   In my current LO, for our first 2 years, i was still in China, the anniversary is being celebrated with cakes and wine and pasta.  And i buy lots of flowers too and we celebrate it together - he inside the pc screen and me on the table, tasting the wine and eating some of the cakes.  I eat half of the cake and put away in the ref half of it and freeze them til he makes it to China.  Sadly he did not, so that frozen cake was thrown away from some months. lol!  Now that am back in my homeland and he is still out there, we just greet each other and when we have the chance to meet in real - we celebrate all the special dates in our relationship (pakyawan).

OCTOBER 31
If there’s one greatest gift that you ever received in your life, what is that?  My mom.  The mom i have.  She may not be perfect, but i am so proud and thankful that she is my mom or else i won’t be here blogging and answering this meme question and having children that calls me mommy because am “really” their mom.   

OCTOBER 24
Were you taught and trained to do the household chores at a very young age? If yes, would you implement the same to your children?  Yes, we were or I am.  Am the eldest i have to learn earlier that in my elementary years, i can be a doting mom to my siblings because my mom is a working mom. hehehe.  I can remember we have house-hold assignment list pasted in one of the corners of the kitchen that we have to do it before going to school in the morning and beofre eating dinner in the evening.  I thought that time i got a devil mom because she let us work hard while other kids in the neighborhood play and play.  But later at 14 when me and my sister were off to a boarding school and we have to cook our food, i did well.  I have to fed my sister for 4 years in boarding school and my bro for 2 years.   Would i implement to my children?  I do want to but my kid is now at a situation where almost everyone will do things for her, especially the grandma.  I even mused to myself how come my mom was not able to train my child well when it comes to household chores, when she had done her best when me myself and my siblings were still young.  oh well, i’d like to blame it on grandmahood. hehehe.  Dimple is still not good in washing clothes even her undies and socks.   She can’t arranged her clothes well nor fold them very well like i want to.  But for cooking rice, as long as she measures water and rice well, she goes along fine.  She can sweep the floor too.

OCTOBER 17
Do you practice a time-out corner way to discipline your kids?

 I have never tried that “time-out corner” as one of the ways in disciplining my kids because i’ve never seen my mom doing that to me and my siblings.   But the procedure i think is good and can be very effective especially in controlling tantrum behaviors.   I have known friends who make this time out corner and all they can say is that this is effective.

Since she did not have fever again last night, she was back to school today so that she won’t miss any quizzes.  At 6 am, i find myself alone with her.  I really wish for a set-up like this, just me and her in an everday life.  I would wonder how will we get along with the household chores, but i think we would be doing ok. 

My mom left for a meeting in CDO early today that is why at 6 I have to get up to check what we will have for breakfast.  She was up too bt not before her grandma left so she was left wondering if her grandma carried some bottle of water or any food to really make her alright along the way.  At 7:15 we both left the house.

IN the afternoon at 5, i tried to call home no one answered. So either of them are not yet home.  I came home late because there was some farewell get together held at the “Admin” kitchen, so i have to stay back to overlook the place especially the after care so i just can’t go home at 5:30.  Since i can’t get home late, i was wondering if she was home and what she will do home being alone.  I got so many thoughts in mind that makes me at times tag myself as a no good mom.  But i kept that thought aside instead strive hard to really become a good mom.

When i arrived home, she’s already in, reading, and my mom taking a shower.  I carried some slices of choc cake and 2 pcs of cheesy puto (one for her and one for my mom) and she was happy. 

It was good to be home!

Last tuesday as i was posting my entry, i was also learning at the same time a new thing with PS.  I really like to share this because never had I imagine i could do this.  But now i realized that with a little tutoring and a determination to learn, one can really learn.

Thanks to Rhoen for the patience in teaching me the steps to make these picture frames.

–am really happy that i was able to learn this kind of framing.  these were what ive done after the tutorial.  it’s a week ago today.  from time to time, i tried to frame more pics.  i have not yet memorized the steps, so i still look at my notes.

Another thing to make me a happy momma is that last Friday, i picked my daughter’s first grading card in school.  It was not really the high of my standards but still better off then others. She got the highest grade of 95 and the lowest of 91.  I have some doubts if that will still increase or not, but i hope it won’t go down anymore.

It was a good week, TT’s moms. :)  Hope you too out there!

SEPTEMBER 5 - How would you rate yourself being a mother, 10 being the highest.

Wow thats’ a tough one and really i can’t rate myself as mom all in all because it’s often i would say am not a good mother being a mom on the go at that.  I was not there for my children especially in their toddler years.  Though i was there when they were born but not so long after that they were left to the care of my mother and my son to the care of my ex-hubs.  It was a choice i can’t avoid.  It’s should be my mom who will answer this question. hehehee.  But if it calls for financial support, i surely got the highest rating.  That’s the only reason why i was a mom on the go, why i missed those moments when i should be with my children.

AUGUST 29

Would you tell your children that they should only enter a relationship at a certain age {like most parents do}?

MY ANSWER:

- my parent’s did not tell me the exact age that i should start dating or go into a relationship but all i know is that it was not yet allowed during my highschool (especially for my father)  but then sinuway ko yong kagustuhan nya, only him because i told mom everything if ever am into one.  so with that experience i don’t have any plans of telling Dimple at what age she can go dating, but will not stop guiding her.  although i can remember telling her one time that if “possible” she won’t get married unless she have  a stable job already and got a house of her own.  at least no matter what happens she got a home to go home to.  i told her not to mind about me because i will also try to have a life of my own.  and if she ever do that, i will be the most satisfied mom in this world. when i told her that, she just nodded her head.

I know it’s my tendency to really pound her to have high marks on her tests.  To me high marks means 100% but nah she did not get any perfect result though i think the following scores is still in the high marks category.

She showed me her test papers awhile back for my signature, my face was expressionless. hehehehe so instead of asking her why no perfect score, I just smiled and said - give me that, let me blog about it

For the info of everyone, Dimple is in the 5th grade:

• HEKASI 5 - 99%
• English - 99%
• MAPE 5 - 99%
• Filipino 5 - 97%
• HELE 5 - 97 %
• Bible 5 - 97%
• Science - 97%
• Mathematics - 95%

Hmmm i told her that she should do better next time.

Tagged by Aeirin.  Thanks, sis!

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1. When was your first kiss and where?
- I am sure it was in college and it was somewhere in the campus. LOL!

2. When was your first real relationship and how long did it last?
- All were real, come on. hahahaha and the first one was i was 14.  It was official because it was my first love and first heartbroken.  It lasted for 8 months til he moved to another school and we never meet and talk again.

3. What age were you allowed to date?
- there was no age limit but i think my mom trusted me to have that bf/gf relationship when i was still in highschool coz she was not mad at me.  I was scared of my dad for his threats but i told him - talk to mom and no more threats nor angry words from him.

4. What’s the craziest thing you did (for love) when you were a teenager?
- detouring. i was 4th year in highschool.  my campus leave was for home (iligan) but i didn’t go there instead with my bestfried because the parents of my guy invited me over for the week-end.

5. How long was your longest relationship and what’s the secret?
- 5 years.  It’s an LDR.  Trust and open mindedness and tibay ng loob.

6. How long did you date before you decided to settle down?
- we were more than a year then i decided when i was already 8 months pregnant with my son.

7. How did you know he was the ONE?
- honestly, i didn’t feel it right.  But i heed on advices.  I let the advices work for me.

8. Now, at what age will you allow your kids(s) to date?
- maybe 4th year in highschool if she can really wait that long.  date as in simply dating lang ha!

9. When it comes to your kids dating, will you be a cool parent or a strict parent?
- probably i will be a cool one mixed with abit of strictness.

10. What piece of advice can you give to your child when they start dating?
- never go out alone.  just go group dating and don’t go to places where it’s conducive for cuddling, kissing, or activities that will forget that what you are doing is wrong.

Am going to pass this tag to:

Hailey

Jeannette

Teacher Julie

Jesslyn

Angie

and anyone who likes to snag this tag.

Yesterday, Dimple and I went out to the city.  It was more of a store hopping than shopping because i don’t have money for normal shopping.  I can’t treat her either to some pizza because i haven’t withdrawn my winning yet and i also don’t have anyone to borrow the money from worth 20 dollars in pesos.  But i have few pesoses so when we were on our way, i told her, you are allowed to buy whatever you like in the amount of P20.00.  She was very happy. 

When we reached the big “chinese shop - Uni City” we roamed around then we separate ways.  She was on her way on the other aisle while i was on my way.  I Know she can find me around.  After some 10 minutes we roamed all the aisles together.  Then i said, there’s nothing to buy here, we can go then she said “oops, i am going to buy something.” hahahaaha i laughed at her.  She let me wait for her in one corner as she went to fetch her goods.  In her mind her goods must just be within the P20.00 but she said before we arrived at the cashier, there are many nice things but it’s too expensive.  They are more than P20.00. :D  I was not sure if she was telling me or she was just talking to herself.

That was my first time to do like this.  Give her a budget if she goes with me for grocery.  Then she asked me later, when are we going to go out again?  Am i still going to have P20.00?  I just smiled at her.

By the way, she bought a small coloring book and 3 pcs erasers worth P19.00.  I asked her what will she do with the 1.00, she replied, I am going to buy a candy. hehehehe but she never did.  I bought some food for her more than 1.00.  Siya pa ang may utang sa akin. hahaha.

Really these days am not giving her any allowance.  last year she carry P5.00 each day but now, it’s not regular anymore.  Just when i have extra money.  She does not complain because i really tell her the other important expenses i need to cover up.  ON this part, i can say - she’s really a good girl.

Tagged by Yen. Thank you.

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1.) Name something strange that your kids love to eat. Doesn’t matter how many.
2.) Post an image of him or her enjoying ‘the’ strange food liking. If none, just a photo of him having a feast.
3.) Add your kids name in the linky love with the blog where you posted this meme.
4.) Get back to Living the Healthy Life Blog by leaving a comment so your kids’ name be added to the master list.
5.) Tag as many of your friends with kids.

Kids who joined the fear food factor: ETHAN / MARTHA / JJ / Ozzy / GABBY and NICCO / ESTONG / Kuya and Kowi/ Big Brother AL-kiddo of Mommy Yen / DIMPLE / Name of your kid & your blog

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The time my daughter can start to eat solid foods, we fed on her veges. Mashed veges of any kind.  When she was still a toddler, there was no problem yet but she she started schooling she began to be picky on the food that she eats.  Of course she eats rice but not the vegetables.  She jst have the soup or the sabaw or the broth but not anything solid on the ulam especially if they are vegetables.   But now that she can read and understand what she’s reading, my mom gave her books about healthy eating, what good we get from a vegetables and everything - she started to be good at eating vegies even the ampalaya or the bitter gourd.  She likes ampalaya better than me.  Before she does not like eggplant or talong, but now she can tolerate it.   When it comes to meat recipes, she is not picky.  She loves just anything as long as it edible and not a bawal in our table.

Here’s a picture of her about to devour chicken strips with rice. She loves what she’s holding although she had a bad cough the time this photo was taken.

Now am passing this tag to:

Juliana, Liz, Sheng, Hailey, and Ruby