There was a point in my life that if i have money and i am at the right place i would have placed the fetus inside my tummy for a paternity test. Not that the father of my baby wanted it but it was my initial reaction when i heard horrible stories that my baby is of someone’s elses child. All i know that times was it takes more than a thousand dollars to do the test and not here in my hometown. So i kept the idea to myself. But somehow it will still happen.
Now i have discovered a site called DDC that orient people what is really a paternity test. How can it be done and where can it be done. It informs people that DNA testing cannot just be done anywhere but only in authorized clinics all over the world. DNA testing can even be done even if the concern father is at the other side of the world. Contrary to the knowledge that DNA costs thousands of dollars or more, now it can cost as low as $400-500.
Oh well, whatever the cost, am waiting for his say. 
I wonder if he will ever read this post. hehehe
What would you do if you found out that your partner cheats on you? It’s easier to say “goodbye bunot” right away, but maybe after the ecstatic reaction, i will mellow and then think. Then once am sober i will call up for a heart to heart dialogue with my partner. Next thing, I want to see the girl. hehehe. If it can’t be fixed anymore, then maybe i will leave him at that and then i will think on what will i do. Still take him or leave him.
Does your partner remember important dates such as anniversaries and birthday or do you keep a calendar to remind him? Same as Mitch, my guy remembers my birthday, dimple’s birthday and the anniversary year and month but forgot the exact date. He does not also take time to remember the birthdays of his family and even his birthday. I never remind him except if he totally forgets about dates.
I don’t like starting a fight. Ever! I have a history being tagged as kapayason “papaya” because when i know talk bad about me or is angry at me, i just cry. As in cry. It is always my sister who fights back for me. I hate chaos as in — but now that i have grown and matured, and there are still a few who likes trouble with me or revoked me, there are times when i just keep things to myself and face it with “i don’t care” attitude and with much prayer, dinideadma ko. Pero minsan nanginginig rin ako sa galit at ayaw ko magsalita kasi alam ko that when i open my mouth, bad words really really bad things na kahit aso di makakain ay lalabas. And that seldom happens. Siguro isang beses pa lang kaya ang heart ko ay super damaged na. That for me, but when it comes to my family, oh well, am thinking if should i throw back the stone or should i use bread.
It;s been awhile i’ve been mum about this but you (Ronnie & Maricris & Tiyahin) have done something terrible to my sister inspite her silence then let’s start the war. You should pray na bread ang ibato ko sa inyo. Di nyo kilala ang kinakalaban nyo. My sister is going on with her life her and she’s happy in the thought na meron syang pamilya. Di nya kailangan ng mga tao na pareho sa inyo, so sana huwag nyo na syang pakialaman. You maricris, you said you are educated and with etitquiette, pero bakit panay tira ang lumabas sa bibig mo? Am sure everyone of you there knows that it’s not good for a pregnant woman to have problems or be in bad mood but you have the heart to always send her messages that will break her heart the more. Dapat dina kayo maki-alam sa kanya.
Only one text more and you will hear from me.
NOVEMBER 7 -Do you celebrate anniversaries? How? In all my relationships (i think except the man i married) anniversaries are special dates. If time does can’t let us have a celebration, special greetings will do like anniv cards and maybe a candy or two will go along with it. In my current LO, for our first 2 years, i was still in China, the anniversary is being celebrated with cakes and wine and pasta. And i buy lots of flowers too and we celebrate it together – he inside the pc screen and me on the table, tasting the wine and eating some of the cakes. I eat half of the cake and put away in the ref half of it and freeze them til he makes it to China. Sadly he did not, so that frozen cake was thrown away from some months. lol! Now that am back in my homeland and he is still out there, we just greet each other and when we have the chance to meet in real – we celebrate all the special dates in our relationship (pakyawan).
OCTOBER 31
If there’s one greatest gift that you ever received in your life, what is that? My mom. The mom i have. She may not be perfect, but i am so proud and thankful that she is my mom or else i won’t be here blogging and answering this meme question and having children that calls me mommy because am “really” their mom.
OCTOBER 24
Were you taught and trained to do the household chores at a very young age? If yes, would you implement the same to your children? Yes, we were or I am. Am the eldest i have to learn earlier that in my elementary years, i can be a doting mom to my siblings because my mom is a working mom. hehehe. I can remember we have house-hold assignment list pasted in one of the corners of the kitchen that we have to do it before going to school in the morning and beofre eating dinner in the evening. I thought that time i got a devil mom because she let us work hard while other kids in the neighborhood play and play. But later at 14 when me and my sister were off to a boarding school and we have to cook our food, i did well. I have to fed my sister for 4 years in boarding school and my bro for 2 years. Would i implement to my children? I do want to but my kid is now at a situation where almost everyone will do things for her, especially the grandma. I even mused to myself how come my mom was not able to train my child well when it comes to household chores, when she had done her best when me myself and my siblings were still young. oh well, i’d like to blame it on grandmahood. hehehe. Dimple is still not good in washing clothes even her undies and socks. She can’t arranged her clothes well nor fold them very well like i want to. But for cooking rice, as long as she measures water and rice well, she goes along fine. She can sweep the floor too.
That what I read this evening here. And i think that if I am the one who initiates the break-up then their 5 SIMPLE RULES are simply right and even i don’t need to do them to get over a person who i broke up with. But if am the one being ditched then it’s a different story. So here’s my response or reaction to the rules. You can go to see the article first before you read my points below.
5 SIMPLE RULES:
1. Ride off to the sunset.
Yeah i can do that when it was the other party who breaks up with me. I emote out there. I think and I cry my heart out . First or second it still left me grieving because i am missing him so much but after 5 times, i feel am getting better. Now if i was the one who break up with my partner — i don’t need to ride off to the sunset.
2. Apply the Wizard of Oz effect.
Well it does not work well with all the time. If i break up with someone because am mad at him or maybe because of third party, i can surely show him that am happy without him. Not because i want to but because i want him to realized it was wrong for him to do that mistake. If someone i love breakup with me? I can’t apply that rule really. I even wrote him what i feel – write to him daily. lol!
3. Enact the verb in “Breaking UP”
If i don’t like him anymore to the max that i abhore him, then all the stuff pertaining to him has to go. But if it’s someone i love…it has to stay until i get over. I even kept lovenotes and some memorablia that i can go back to anytime when i have tons of free time. lol! I keep loveletters scrapbook.
4. Don’t Look Back.
When i really feel for the person, i can’t help to do that. Though i try my bset to go out or take some measures in order not to look back, i still can. But if it’s someone i hate, then i don’t look back. But if am angry in the breakup, i tend to think that i should not be mad or angry because at one time, there was a good time – so i still can look back. Looking back is not really bad.
5. Remember you’ll get over it.
breaking up with someone i love? yeah i know for sure i can get over the break-up. coz i’ve been there.
breaking up with someone that i stopped caring anymore? it was so quick getting over him. lol
Now let me try to answer the questions at the end of the article:
So, do you agree with these rules? No i don’t except number 5 because it all depends on the type of person you break up with.
Do you have any nightmare breakup stories? The heartache? ohh alot. hahaha
If a guy you dumped followed these rules, would you start reconsidering?
No. I never dumped someone unless i still love him or feel for him. Once i let him out of my life, he can never come back anymore. (have been doing that since then and til this time, still doing it. i dunno in the future if i can change my stand on “reconsidering.”
Would you be annoyed if you dumped a guy and he didn’t get upset?
No never. I really don’t care if he gets upset or not because once i dumped someone then it means i stopped caring anymore.
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On July 26 Mitch Asks “What would you do if you ever caught your partner flirting online?”
Honestly i can say “i dunno.” Since i started an online relationship (isa lang ha) that never cross my mind. Maybe it was because of my naivity or maybe i was just thinking that this guy is right true for me. I am feeling that I dunno how to flirt so am plainly thinking that my guy should not flirt. But thinking about it now, i can say that he flirted online (when we met) and happen to bump on me and then i jump up on me and never let him go anymore. LOL! I think i misread the flirt into caring and loving. (confession huh)
Now going back to the question and if i relate it to the present time, i can say am feeling bad as the question tug a hurt string in my heart because I didn’t catch him instead it was him who confessed it – now that he is hurt because he was cheated on. Aside from the hurt that i felt and i feel i wanna strangle the woman not him. LOL! For me, i get mad with the woman not with my guy. YOu know what am doing now? Am still giving him advices and like letting go and be forgiving. I think that’s the thing he came back and thought of really sticking with me forever because in me he found not just a friend, a lover and best friend kulang nalang kasal. Not being married to each other does not make him or me free from temptations or flirtings by the other parties. But if both of u just really love each other – all things can be talked about like saying goodbye and let that party go on flirting.
on JULY 19 Do you allow your partner to go on a night out alone (means without you around)?
My answer is:
if you have asked me this question long time ago i mean fresh from college or before i got married, maybe my answer would be no. But after experiencing several failed relationships, and after reading some self-help books and relationship enhancement books, i can answer this with a big YES. In good faith, i will allow this kind of thing. He needs that as much as i need it also.
Giving each person a time to of his or her own out with his or her own friends is one of the ways you allow your partner to grow and i have proved that “need” when i got married. I thought restricting someone will jsut happen between a boy and girl friendship or relationship, so when i got married, and had the same treatment – i just got to let go. It was really suffocating. If your partner can allow you to go out sometimes yourself, i bet, the relationship will thrive long. But not the allowing and when he or she gets back, you interrogate him or her like a police. LOL! because i have experienced that too to the point that i don’t go out anymore coz we just end up fighting. hehehehe
